Let’s talk about that moment when you realize that the person you’re dating isn’t the one.
You probably start telling yourself a story that sounds something like: Here we go again. I’m going to have to start all over again. I’ve invested [insert length of time] of my life on this guy, what a complete waste.
This will likely jump start another delightful chain of thoughts when you remind yourself how difficult the dating scene is now. You start to dread putting yourself back out there. You ask yourself, what’s the point, if they’re all going to end the same way?
I hear you. And I think your story sucks.
Not only does it suck, but it’s 100% unnecessary. Here’s how realizing that the person you’re dating isn’t the one is the best news you could have hoped for.
Goodbye isn’t a step back, it’s a step forward
If the person you’re with isn’t the one, don’t you want to know that? This is the best news. Now you can let them go to make room for the next potential life partner. You are now one step closer to finding your life partner.
It’s easy to look at relationships as circular – you make progress in one relationship, get to know each other, then realize it’s not going to work out long-term. So you say goodbye. Back to the starting point in the circle.
But you’re not going backwards and “starting over”, you’re moving forward. You’re making measured progress towards true love. Each relationship is a steppingstone to the next – which all lead to your life partner.
Nothing is a waste of time if you learn from it
Stop and think about the last relationship you had. What did you learn from that relationship? How are you even more ready now to meet your life partner than you were before you met that person?
That relationship wasn’t a waste of time, it was exactly what you needed. If you choose to see it that way, you will learn the lessons it’s there to teach you. Other people are mirrors – they reflect back the work we need to do on ourselves to grow and evolve into more of who we want to be.
For example, in my last relationship before I met my husband, I learned that I was treating men like play things in a game. I wasn’t seeing them as real people with deep emotions who can be hurt, and who want to be loved deeply. That information was absolutely key to me becoming the woman who was ready to find my husband – the tough, yet deeply feeling man that he is. If I’d showed up uncaring and unfeeling (to protect myself), I wouldn’t have been ready to love him the way he wanted to be loved by his life partner.
There’s always a lesson; you just have to be looking for it.
Your life partner is a moment in time away
We sometimes make finding true love out to be this big ordeal. We think of it in terms of all the relationships we’re going to have to go through, all the heartbreak, and all the struggle.
But really, finding your life partner is just a moment in time. A single moment in time, just like every other moment.
Yes, this relationship didn’t work out. That’s great news. You are now one step closer to the moment your life partner finds you. He will find you.
I help successful single women find their life partners – or, in some cases like mine, I help them allow themselves to be found by their life partners – by applying simple, proven concepts to their daily lives. This work is simple, but transformational.
I’d love to get on a call with you and show you how we can take you from where you are to where you want to be – in the arms of the man you’ve been waiting your whole life for. Schedule a free chat today.