It’s easy to attribute your singledom situation to something “out there” – I’ve heard all the excuses. Here’s one of my favorites: my partner probably isn’t even available.
The storyline that accompanies this statement goes something like, odds are if my ideal partner even does exist out there in the world, he probably ran off and married someone else by now.
I want you to know that this story isn’t true. It’s just a story.
There’s the story… then there are the facts
Almost everything that runs through your head and out your mouth on a daily basis is story. What I mean by story is that the words you’re thinking and saying don’t reflect cold hard facts; they contain lots of adjectives and opinions that not everyone in the world would agree on.
The statement, “My partner probably isn’t even available” contains no facts. None. Yet so many women speak them as if they contain truth.
This isn’t a problem… unless the story you’re telling yourself isn’t serving you.
Don’t use your story against yourself
A thought like, “My partner probably isn’t even available” is discouraging. What do we do when we’re discouraged? Most of us stop trying.
Did you know that you can tell yourself any story you want about your life? That’s right. You get to tell yourself whatever story you want – it’s all made up anyway.
Tell yourself a story that works for you
Instead of, “My partner probably isn’t even available,” decide that your partner is available. No one knows whether he is or isn’t, so decide that he is.
Everything worked out for me
Funny enough, my husband was unavailable all the years I was struggling to figure out what I wanted. In the couple years leading up to our reconnection, he was sorting through his own relationship issues.
I have always believed that the timing is always working out for me. The minute I decided I was ready to reconnect with my husband was the same moment that he became available for me.
I’m not the exception, I am an example. Your man will make himself available when you decide you’re ready for him.
Everything is working out for you
Pay attention to the things you say that feel “true”. Are they facts, or are they story? A story you can write any way you want.
Choose to believe that life is always working out for you. Choose to believe that when you make yourself available to your partner, he will become available for you.
I help women work through sneaky limiting beliefs like this so they can get out of their own way and find the true love that’s out there waiting for them. Schedule a free consultation with me today and I’ll share more on how I can help you do the same.