The truth about playing hard to get is that it works… if you’re interested in manipulating a man into wanting you. But you’re wanting to build your relationship on a foundation of love and respect, not lies and manipulation.
Here’s the truth about this old dating tactic.
Playing hard to get works… for a little bit
Playing hard to get creates scarcity (of you), which artificially increases demand (for you) in the short-term. When you play hard to get, you create the illusion that you are in short supply, thus increasing your appeal.
However, in truth, when you play hard to get, you’re attempting to trick him into feeling desire for you.
But this type of desire doesn’t last. Like all things that are fake, the illusion eventually fades, and what’s left is the real stuff underneath.
Don’t use a short-term tactic on a long-term man. It doesn’t work.
If you don’t tell him you’re interested, he won’t know you’re interested
Depending on how good of an actress you are, if you play hard to get, at worst he’ll see through the act and walk away because he’s looking for an honest woman. At best, he’ll believe you and think you’re not interested. Because your ideal man is looking for his life partner, and she wants to be with him.
The truth is you are interested. Tell him that. Not from need and insecurity, from abundance and love. If he doesn’t reciprocate, he’s probably not the one.
The only “tactic” that works on your life partner is you
Your life partner doesn’t need convincing. He doesn’t need you to trick him into thinking you’re amazing. He needs you to show up as you so he can see for himself how amazing you are. When he sees you showing up in the world as crazy, beautiful you, you help make it crystal clear to him who you are: his life partner.
The real you is fully available to love and be loved. When you show up as anything less than that, by playing games, you cheapen the experience of finding true love.
The truth about playing hard to get is that it doesn’t work long-term. This short-term dating tactic comes from fear and scarcity, whereas the long-term strategy of being yourself comes from love and abundance.
Show up in the world as yourself, and you make it easy for your life partner to find you.
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