You want to find your life partner organically. You want it to be easy and effortless and fun. You don’t want to have to think about it so hard – trying to figure out where to meet quality men, how to behave to catch their attention, and what to say to keep them interested.
You know you want to find him organically… but you have no idea how to go about it.
Let me break it down and make it very simple for you.
There are two ways to go about finding your life partner: organically and orchestrated(ly). One way is easy, and one way is hard. Both are equally available. Yes, even for you, at your age, in today’s world.
Know what’s your job, and what’s not your job
Living organically means controlling what you have control over (you) and allowing the rest.
Living in a way that’s orchestrated happens when you attempt to control what you don’t have control over (the rest of the world and everybody in it).
The following are your job:
- Deciding what you want
- Your thoughts
- Your emotions
- Your actions
The following are not your job:
- How you’ll meet
- When you’ll meet
- Where you’ll meet
- Who you’ll meet
You have little to no control over the details of how, when, where, and who you’ll meet. Nor do you want to! This is the organic part of life that happens outside of you, all on its own. It doesn’t need your help.
When you’re focused on what you do have control over – you – and allow the rest, the details fall into place for you. Easily. Effortlessly. While having fun!
Whereas, when you attempt to orchestrate your life – by arranging details you have no control over to try and create a specific result (like meeting “the one”) – you zap all the fun out of life, with your own energy. Also, it doesn’t work.
It’s not about what you do, it’s about how you do it
Every action can be either organic or orchestrated – it all depends on how you’re taking that action. More specifically, what emotion you’re using to fuel that action with.
Organic action is taken from a feeling of abundance. Orchestrated action is taken from a feeling of scarcity.
Let’s look at online dating as an example – dating online can be either an organic or an orchestrated experience.
When you’re attempting to orchestrate your online dating experience, fear and scarcity are calling the shots. You scroll through profiles, hearing the clock tick, and feeling the rising pressure to find someone now. You watch your friends find their forever loves and see the pool of men shrinking before your eyes. Dates feel more like an interrogation session – the quicker you can assess him as a “no”, the faster you can move on to the next.
Sound familiar? Please tell me there’s an alternative to this madness… There is!
When you’re dating organically, you look through profiles with interest and curiosity. You don’t pressure yourself to find someone on any sort of timeline. You trust that there’s someone out there for everyone, and that your someone is out there waiting for you to be fully ready for him. When you go on dates, you show up as yourself, loving yourself. You let him not like you. You stay open to all possibilities and look at online dating as one of many ways to find him.
You never know when and where you’re going to meet the love of your life. Your only job is to control what you can, allow the rest, and remain open to all possibilities.
Magic is orchestrated by greater powers than you, beautiful
As google defines it, organic means “denoting a relation between elements of something such that they fit together harmoniously as necessary parts of a whole.”
When everyone involved controls the pieces they have control over, and allows the rest to do the same… that’s when the magic happens.
Let me help you create magic in your life by controlling what you can, and allowing the rest to be. It’s so simple. It’s so easy. But most importantly, it works. Schedule a free consultation today.