Last week, we talked about how to spot a red flag in a potential partner. I want to turn the tables around this week and look at you.
Have you ever stopped to consider whether you’re the red flag?
Your initial reaction might be, “Of course I’m not the red flag! I’m a good person. I genuinely want to find my life partner. I’d never waste anyone’s time.”
This all may be true, but let’s take a closer look. Just for fun.
Red Flags
In their simplest definition, red flags are warning signs.
To a man looking for a successful woman like you, red flags warn him that you might not be ready for the committed, healthy partnership he’s looking for.
Here are some common red flag behaviors that may tip your date off that you’re not totally ready yet.
Behavior #1: You show up on dates guarded or with an aggressive “prove it” attitude
This signals to a man that you’re still working through some stuff from the past, and might not be fully emotionally available for this relationship, here and now.
If you’ve noticed this behavior in yourself, get curious about it. Ask yourself why you show up this way. What are you afraid of? Often, what you’re afraid of is an emotion.
The truth is, an emotion can never harm you if you feel it all the way through.
Behavior #2: You play games or act like you don’t care about him
This signals to a man that you’re still playing and aren’t ready to commit. You’re still having fun dating. You’re still testing the water and figuring out what you want.
This in and of itself is not a problem – it just won’t attract a high-quality man looking for his life partner.
Behavior #3: You try and get him to act in a certain way so you can feel a certain way
This signals to a man that you’re looking to him to fill some sort of void within you, which is an impossible task and one he certainly doesn’t want for the rest of his life.
Here’s the truth: no one can make you feel anything, because emotions are generated inside your body by your thoughts. You created that void, and you have to be the one to fill it. With your beliefs about you.
You are whole and complete, just as you are.
If you just realized you’re a red flag…
Don’t freak out. You’re totally fine. Nothing has gone wrong. You’re just human with a human brain doing human brain things.
I’ve designed an entire program around helping you become the woman who’s ready to meet her ideal life partner. We work through all of this together.
If you’re curious even a little, schedule a free consultation and I’ll share more about how I can help you find the life partner of your dreams.