Not convinced your man exists? Let me guess: You’re too picky. You won’t be satisfied with one person forever. You’ll never find someone who supports all your dreams. You’ll outgrow him before long. No one can keep up with you. You’re too intimidating. This is all part of the old, long, boring, story you’ve been telling yourself that’s keeping him at bay.
Your man exists. You’re just keeping him a safe distance away with the story you keep telling yourself about the two of you.
All beliefs are self-reinforcing
Here’s the deal: whenever we tell ourselves a story and then believe it, we create evidence for it in our lives.
For example, take the storyline, “I’m too intimidating.” For me, this thought creates the feeling of superiority. When I feel superior, I treat people as inferior to me. I use abrasive language, I’m not welcoming, and I close my heart to other people. I show up as an intimidating person.
Do you think you’re more likely or less likely to find your man when you show up in this way? Probably less likely. The thought, “I’m too intimidating” isn’t a fact. It’s an optional storyline you have about yourself that leads you to show up in a way that proves it “true”.
The odds are in your favor
Ok maybe you’re not totally onboard yet with the idea that your beliefs drive you to create evidence that support them. Let’s talk cold hard statistics.
There are 7.6 billion people in this world; based on your gender preference, let’s cut that in half. Now reduce that down to your preferred age range and location; there are about 85 million men in the United States aged 25 to 45. About half of them are unmarried.
That leaves you with over 40 million eligible men. That’s over 500 packed football stadiums of eligible bachelors. Odds are one of them is exactly right for you. It is statistically probable that your ideal life partner exists.
Just try it – you have nothing to lose
I am convinced that your man exists. But it’s not my belief that matters, it’s yours.
Indulge me for just a minute. Say that, in the play space of your imagination, your ideal partner does exist. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain by indulging me in the possibility that this person also exists in the world.
You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.
All it takes is one. Take the shot. You may have to take 1000 shots before one of them lands in the back of the net. But I promise you, that one shot is worth it.
Let me help you take the shot. Let me help you find your one. Reach out and we’ll get started today.