You want to find your life partner, but you’re still not sure about the whole thing. You can feel that waffling feeling inside of you when you think about it. It doesn’t feel like you’ve gone all in on finding your life partner yet.
You’re “not sure” because there’s something about finding your life partner that you’re afraid of. And you think that if you find the “right one”, these fears and doubts will magically go away.
But this is flawed logic. Why? Because your life partner will find you once you decide that you’re ready. The readiness part comes first.
Finding your life partner isn’t something that happens to you – it’s a conscious decision that you make.
Let’s make this decision together, so we can move on to the finding part.
Start With a Question
Your brain loves to answer questions. The quality of answers you get depends on the quality of questions you ask.
Ask your brain this quality question: Why haven’t you gone all in on finding your life partner?
There’s a reason why you haven’t gone all in on finding your person. We want to know why; once you know why, you have the power to change it. Be willing to go there. Be willing to see what comes up.
Maybe you’re afraid the relationship won’t last forever. You’re always growing and evolving, and you haven’t met someone who can keep up with you yet. You don’t want to fall in love again just to have to move on a couple years later.
This is great information you’ve just uncovered.
Explore What Comes Up
Once you have an answer, we then want to lovingly explore it. Your brain isn’t a scary place – it’s a creation tool designed to work for you.
By exploring this fear – that your relationships won’t last forever because you’re constantly growing – you might realize that this assumption isn’t even true, and can immediately let it go. Just because in past relationships your partners haven’t evolved with you, doesn’t mean that your future life partner won’t be able to.
How do you know that future partners won’t be able to keep up? What else is possible?
Go All In
I’m going to let you in on a fact of life… your human brain evolved to produce fear and doubt to keep you safe. Because of that, you will always feel fear doubt. Whether single, or with the love of your life, your brain will continue to produce fear and doubt.
By not going all in on finding your life partner, you choose the fear and doubt ahead of time. By fearing finding them, and doubting that you will.
Decide to feel the fear and doubt on purpose by going after your dreams. Decide that you’re ready. Be willing to be afraid. Be willing to feel fear. Be willing to doubt. Go all in anyway.
“Ready” is a decision that you make, not a situation that happens to you. Decide.
As part of my 1-1 coaching program, Find Your Life Partner, I help successful women make decisions about what they want, then go all in on them. Let me help you make these important decisions, then watch them unfold in your life.
Schedule a free consultation and let’s talk.