If you spent your New Year’s Eve alone this year, I have a few things to say to you.
If you’re a successful single woman who spent her New Year’s Eve alone this year, I have a few things to say to you.
If you wish you hadn’t spent your New Year’s Eve alone this year, here’s what I want to say to you.
1. 2020 was weird.
It was weird for everyone. You weren’t the exception, you’re part of the club. 2020 tested us in so many unusual ways; it tested us in ways we’ve never been tested before.
2020 tested our resolve – and helped us clarify what’s important to us. It tested our patience – and showed us how resilient we really are. It tested our relationships – and gave us new appreciation for how important we really are to each other.
If you spent your New Year’s Eve alone this year, you are not alone in that.
2. This is the most exciting time of your life.
I love my husband dearly, and I don’t want anything about our relationship to be different, but oh what I would give to experience falling in love with him all over again.
You are on the cusp of that experience – savor it. Savor every moment of your aloneness because it won’t last for long. With a few tweaks of your thoughts, you’ll be welcoming Mr. Right into your life; and so the fall will begin.
Enjoy standing at the top of the slide, scanning the limitless sea of potential mates, knowing that yours is out there, you’re just not 100% ready for him yet. How do I know? If you were ready, you would have spent New Year’s Eve with him.
You are in one of the most exciting times of your life. He’s out there, I promise. The only thing standing between the two of you is a couple of harmless yet oh so powerful thoughts. Thoughts which you have the power to change.
Live this moment out knowing that you are the creator of your life and the shaper of your destiny. You are exactly where you are supposed to be.
3. Whatever sad story you’re telling yourself, stop.
Why did you spend New Year’s Eve alone this year? Answer that question.
Maybe you think you’re unworthy of love. Or you don’t believe your life partner exists. Maybe you’ve convinced yourself that everyone else is capable of finding “the one”, but somehow, you’re different (you’re not). Maybe you’re telling yourself you did something wrong, or scared him away. Maybe you think that something about you isn’t lovable.
Each one of these thoughts is part of a story. Stories aren’t facts, they’re optional thoughts.
Whatever your story is, notice it. Watch what you’re telling yourself about spending New Year’s Eve alone this year. The simple fact of spending NYE alone means nothing about you until you make up a story about it. It might be a story you’ve told yourself for a long time, and so it feels true, but it’s still just a story.
By becoming aware of the story you’re telling yourself, you open yourself up to a new one.
4. Decide what you want your story to be.
Are you the pathetic girl who spent the 2021 New Year alone because something went wrong, or are you the badass woman who spent the 2021 New Year alone because everything is going right?
You get to decide. Decide. Right now. Both options are equally available to you.
I know you’re the badass woman. Do you? It doesn’t matter what I think; the only thing that matters in your life is what you think. What do want to think about you?
If you have crazy thoughts running wild in your brain, everything is going right. If you doubt yourself and experience fear on a regular basis, everything is going right. If you have massive dreams and desires for your life, but have no idea how to achieve them, everything is going right.
Welcome to Earth, human. Where some trips around the sun are celebrated alone, at the culmination of a year-long pandemic, and others are spent pressed up close to the ones we love. But each is an experience of a lifetime, worthy of all of you. Live it up, and live it all.
Happy 2021, beauties!